Money Tips 101: Mother’s Day Tribute
Posted in Finance on May 3rd, 2011 by admin – Be the first to commentMother’s Day is coming up soon, and I thought that I’d do an early tribute in today’s article. My mother is your typical everyday mom, retired today after serving 35 years as a language teacher in a primary school. She has no or little understanding of complicated financial tools or investments – I had to teach her about mutual funds when I was 20! However, full credit goes to her for teaching me valuable money lessons on stretching the dollar, living on a budget and sticking to it!
Dining Out Is A No No!
All those years I was growing up, especially in my teenage years when peer pressure was abound, I realised my family almost never dined out. Sure, if it was a birthday or something but other that than… the rest of the time – we were as predictable as the sun rising in the east. When my brothers and I had the nerve to complain about wanting to eat at some fancy restaurant, we would normally get a long lecture. It usually had much to do with the sky (money don’t fall from the sky), trees (money don’t grow on trees), some family called Joneses (Don’t ever try to live up to the Joneses) or about rain (always save for a rainy day). Sure we were treated to street food once in a while, but huddled on an iron stool with a bowl of hot noodle while a stray cat rubbed itself against your feet was not what we had in mind.
Now that I’m a working adult, I finally get it. Eating out can really be expensive. It adds up and becomes quite a dent on either your bank account or credit card (depending on which source you are drawing your cash from). The situation is made worse by escalating food prices today. I now appreciate eating in, sometimes even insisting on it myself, as it helps me stick to my monthly budget. I confess that the first couple of years after I started working, I ate out with a vengeance! And that explains why I had no savings and a steadily increasing debit balance on my credit card. Lesson learnt!
Bargain Hunt When You Shop
My mother made this fun – we were given a pair of scissors and were told to cut out coupons on products she had already shortlisted. I remember I was about 10 years old, and it was so exciting to be able to cut along the dotted lines as instructed. We were entrusted with those ‘gold tickets’ while mother shopped for her items and then we would hand the coupons over to the cashier at the checkout counter. My mother almost always shopped with a list.
As an adult, I did not realise that I had picked up this habit as well, until my friend pointed it out when she was shopping for groceries with me. A list helps you focus on the things you need and not be suckered into items you can live without. We had quite a bit of fun during sales too – I could push the trolley around while mom walked down the supermarket aisle picking out items the household needed. We would move from one aisle to another with purpose. You can say that she was teaching me about time management without me realising it then. I remember fondly the adrenalin rush grabbing things off the shelf when 10 other people were doing the same!
Living Frugal
This might seem like a foregone conclusion. However, I cannot stress enough that you need to embody this mantra in completeness – not just eating in and shopping during sales. My parents were happy driving around a 19-year old car, clothes were only bought when it could no longer be repaired, recycling was the main theme in my house – and I’m not talking about putting paper, plastic and glass in separate bins. To give you an example, recycling in my household meant turning old t-shirts into rags, first for inside the house then later, outside to the garage!
Also, we were also taught never ever to waste food – every morsel we put on our plate MUST end up in our stomach. Since putting money aside for a rainy day was a common mantra, we were taught from young to save a portion of our allowance – no exceptions! My mother definitely walked her talk – she did not have a flashy wardrobe or a cabinet filled with shoes.
Simplicity was, and still is the way she leads her life. I realise today that getting a head start in life is not about getting the best education money can buy or the connections to springboard your career to the top. All this will fall apart (sooner or later) if you do not have the right money blueprint as your foundation. I’m grateful my mother (and my father) was my first money mentor. The lessons I’ve learnt will be my beacon as I chart my course towards financial freedom.
Happy Mother’s Day!
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